Finding the career that best suits you <3

mus al hijrah tepi

After graduation, I tried on a lot of career platforms to see what best suits me. I took about 1 year to finally see what I wanted to do in life and to get the support & permission to pursue in this path.

Yes, I spent all of my higher education levels studying agriculture (and soon I believe I would pursue Masters and PhD in food related studies too). But little that I knew that working in an agriculture related companies and projects are not what I wanted to do as my life career. I figured out I wanted to do something funner, more avant-garde. So basically, I learned that I studied agriculture for the knowledge, for my passion to build a healthier world and for my dream to end world poverty through sustainable living. But not to climb a ladder working in that field.

Among the careers/jobs that I ventured into include –

  1. Worked on an organic farming project in Langkawi – my dad had just retired the same time I graduated. So, he started this project first with his friend and after touching down in Malaysia, we flew to Langkawi to join him. Long story short, the project had to be cut short because of improper planning and I also realised that I did not like to work under the sun as a labour like that.
  2. Became a Public Mutual (PM) investment agent – my mom has been a Public Mutual agent for 11 years now. To compare to the time when she worked 9-5 at UIA, I feel happier when she does PM because she has flexible time and I could see her more often at home. Now she even has a passive income! ‘Sooo ideal’, I thought. So, I joined PM to see if this job was for me. I learned to do cold-callings, face-to-face approach and asked for referrals from my mom’s clients. I made appointments and convinced people to invest with me. Unfortunately months later, some conflicts involving family members arose and I didn’t like the way it was heading. I also realised that this was not a career that I wanted to pursue. So I stopped doing it.
  3. Became an AIA Takaful agent – at the same time, I was also dipping my leg in insurance field. Yet, just like the concept of doing PM, I realised this was not the main career for me.
  4. Unfulfilled lecturer job – I went for an interview to fill a temporary lecturing job at my old college and I got the job! Yes, I convinced myself that I could start as a lecturer. Then, I could build my career in education but I ended up declining it. One because I had to be weekend lovers with my husband. Second because to be honest really, I just didn’t want to spend another 3 months (maybe more) working in the place where I used to study for 3 years at – I wanted something new.
  5. Freelance debate trainer & speaker – I was entrusted by my ex-lecturers to train a group of students to debate so I took the opportunity. I was also called a few times to give a talk about studying in the UK. I resisted one time, saying that I had not much to share. Mostly because I was still blurry of my career path and I was afraid that I might talk nonsense. But they insisted I still come and yes, I did talk nonsense. My mind, body & soul were seriously not present that time – I was regretting my past and worrying about my future. After that, they never called me again and I’m glad that. At least, not until I’m ready again.
  6. Organic chicken supplier – we eat organic chicken at home. So, I decided to supply it to my neighbours and I did. I ordered, received, cut the chicken, repacked and froze them until the day I deliver them. I managed everything on my own including money flow, advertisement, promotion, marketing, designing and branding. Until one time, I felt like I was repeating the same strategy and concept of my baking freelance 4 years back which made me feel like I wasn’t moving and progressing in life. Although if I persisted, I might have progressed but I didn’t stay.
  7. Eid bakes (kuih raya) seller – around the same time of supplying organic chicken, I also sold Eid bakes. But it was only for a short while since Eid lasted only for a month.
  8. Writing a travelogue of our Europe Backpack – when everything didn’t seem to work out, I took a deep breath and did a post-mortem of what I’ve gone through in the search of my ideal career. I sat down and thought, ‘I’ve always loved writing’. In fact, I have been working on this travelogue since I came back to Malaysia but it progressed really slowly. Because I spent more of my time to find my main career and writing to me could come as part-time. But then it made me think, ‘Maybe I could write full-time!’ So, I started spending most of my time writing this book which ended up, still not progressing as I’ve hoped it to.
  9. Project Executive at a Development Company – after a lot of ventures didn’t work, I thought ‘Maybe I am just not ready to create something on my own yet. I need proper connections, professional experience and working in a company could prepare and develop myself for that’. Then I started to seriously job hunt and got hired as a project executive for a very promising project – Kedah Integrated Fishery Terminal (KIFT) & The Modernisation of Malaysian Fishing Vessel which is a project between Malaysia and China Govts. Yet, after a month plus, I resigned choosing our pregnancy over the work stress – well, growing a human being is a serious job too.
  10. Becoming a TV Host – at the very end of the search, I found myself always coming back to this avant-garde path where I wanted to work around media and arts platforms. Writing, speaking, giving talks and motivation, public relations, venturing into different cultures and faiths, building influences around amazing qualities, networking and dealing with a lot of people. This is just me – this is who I am. And because I chose to focus on our pregnancy first, I am now using the time that I have to develop myself and weave my passion into something that I can turn into a workable project, long-term business or getting hired as a TV personnel for a start. Amen.

If you’ve been like me, clueless of what to do after graduation and have been hopping on and off jobs too, it is okay. Let’s take it as an exploration before we finally settle down with a career that we are happy with. Because really, we spend more time at work rather than at home doing what we love or with family so we might as well make it worth it by having a worthy reason like – having an empowering boss, working in an established company, earning a position that we’ve been aiming for a while. We really don’t want to settle in a working environment that deteriorates our self-worth or passion in life. So, I root for keep on searching until you find one that is dear to your heart and empowers you everyday. There are a lot of empowering companies and innovative start-ups mushrooming these days that suit our generation’s taste more. So, go out of your comfort zone and try – He will not waste your effort. Have faith.

Other than that – if you’d like to start a project on your own but don’t know what project to work on (whether you already have daily jobs or don’t), try asking yourself these and jot them down as we do some analysis on your interests and habits:

  1. What is it that I enjoy doing? – Do you enjoy hiking, or dancing, or doing yoga, or writing, or baking, or playing make-ups, or styling, or designing, or working with your hands, or collecting stamps, or drawing portraits, or volunteering, or solving mathematical problems, or giving factual explanation to a scientific question?
  2. What is it that I spend most of my time doing? – Do you spend most of your time being with friends, or reading a book, or cooking for people, or running in marathons, or engaging and exchanging business ideas with people? What activity do you usually find yourself doing?

Say if you enjoy playing make-ups and engaging business ideas with people – that means you have an interest that can be turned into a money making machine which in the long run, can be where your main income comes from. Of course, developing your make-up skills, building influence, audience and getting clients’ trusts and positive spread of word of mouth takes time.

And the key to building something on your own is to explore, learn and inculcate it in yourself and your life. For when you experience it first hand, then only you will be able to really share it with others with less or without hiccups.

If you are pretty occupied with your job and/or other engagements – try to sit down in your free time to strategise and plan when you think would be the best time everyday to work on your project. The founder of Instagram burned the midnight’s oil every night working on the million dollar worth app despite having a daily job. We can too!

Strategise your time, plan your work flow, try committing to it and persist for a few weeks. If it doesn’t work – tweak it – change your schedule, strategy and plans. Persist for a few weeks and see if it works for you. If it does, maintain that schedule and routine and always, always improve. Be a step ahead than where you were yesterday.

Be persistent – attempt on the efforts to carve the path of your choice, everyday. Changing your life destiny involves discipline. If you are not happy with your current job situation and would love to start your own project (or, if you are just like me – having the time and would like to develop yourself) – in my next post, I will share with you a routine that my husband and I have been working on for a few months now to create more hours to work on our project. It may be workable for you too. So, let’s try it out in our quest to find a career or to create a platform that best suits our own unique personality!

See you in the routine post!

PS: It is okay and normal to be hopping on and off different jobs after graduation. Don’t beat yourself up if you see a friend already steadily working in a company. Different individuals go through different challenges and have different purposes in life. Be happy for them and work on yourself. Soon, when the pieces start to fall into place, you will understand why things happen the way it did. Trust Him, yourself and the journey ❤

Toodles!

Much love,

Mus

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2 thoughts on “Finding the career that best suits you <3

  1. I just found out your blog and this is what I need right now. I’m in dilemma because I’m a fresh graduate, taking IT course and I’m not really enjoyed this course. My dad ask me to join this company, I even go for the interview and I got the job. But i’m not so sure whether I should accept it or not as I don’t think I will settle down in this company. Should I tell my parents? I’m afraid I will get scolded by them. I try to talk to my siblings but none of them agreed with me. They said that I should’nt be choosy in finding a job. What should I do?

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    1. Hi Nur, thank you for dropping off a comment on the blog. It is actually still under construction as I continue writing and gathering articles before I really officially share the blog link to others. But I’m glad you found this entry ❤ ), just try to speak with them and maybe tell them that you need sometime. Maybe you need about a year? To just try hop on and off different career platforms to see what you want to do in life (or do you already know what you want to do as a career or job and now your dilemma is only not wanting to work at your dad's company?). Either way, you still need to escape yourself from your dad's company for now right?

      So, try to really speak to them, tell them that you need about a year or two to try on different things or to try to develop something for yourself, if at the end of the day it still doesn't work, then you will come to work at your dad's company.

      You think you can do this?

      Chin up and have faith, a lot of people feel like they knew what's best for us. Yes especially our parents, our siblings and maybe our close friends too. But sometimes, the truth is even we are clueless and blurry of what we want to do in life that's why we really need some space and some faith from others. To grow ourselves and to go out there, exploring until we find what we really love to do. Kan? So, to me bukanlah nak suruh you jadi headstrong, but really. After graduation is really the time for you to explore before you settle on that one thing. True, 5 to 10 years to come you might even find yourself changing winds and directions and its only normal but at least by that time you know already what you love coz you've spent your time now to search or create it. Go on, and chase your dreams. Doa banyak2 that your parents would understand your situation and would allow you to explore and they will inshaAllah. Have faith 🙂 then, keep on exploring. Even if others don't understand or you don't get the support from your siblings, continue doing. I'll be here if you need a talk and you can update me your progress and we can do this together ok?

      Like myself, I am now in the midst of developing myself around yoga and meditation to hopefully be able to connect these two with the Islamic prayers and teachings. I am also experimenting myself with this diet called ketogenic. In the hope that I could be a living proof of how good this diet is in making us use our physical and mental capabilities at its optimum. I also plan to create my own recipes revolving what kind of food source is more easily available in Msia for Msians to easily adopt this diet (sbb this diet is mostly in US and they ask us to eat butternut squash etc, tapi we dont have that a lot in Msia kan). And to be honest with you, up till now some people are still wondering what the hell am I doing with my life because the result is not yet visible. I just pekakkan telinga and buat tak tau sbb they really don't know what I'm doing. Even if I share with them, they might not believe in things like this. So, why bother the waste of time to convince them what they do not want to believe pun? Just continue what you do. Develop yourself around your passion. And if by the time that you are supposed to report to work at your dad's company and you still do not want to do that – pray that finally they let you go after seeing how much effort you put into finding or creating your own career path. Kadang2 parents ni, diorg bukan nak kita kerja untuk diorg sangat. They will be happy if we are settled so in a way, they thought they are helping you by giving you a job. But no. Stand firm on your belief that you want to explore first. InshaAllah, as long as they see you are working towards your plan then they'll be content with that. At the end of the day, they just want us to know what we want to do or to do something. Itu aje. InshaAllah you'll be ok. Pray that everything will be smooth sailing. Pray, He always listens and He always helps ❤

      I'll be here if you need a talk again ❤ And omg! Hahaha sorry I can't help myself to short things up. Mesti nak tulis panjang2 :p

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